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Coping with Change
When we don't cope well with change or transitions it can lead to other problems including depression, sleeplessness, over eating or loss of appetite, anxiety, headaches, or alcohol or drug use.  Therapy can help to address these concerns and below are some things that you can do for yourself.  
1. Knowledge is power.  Fear of the unknown can sometimes be the greatest complicating factor in adapting to change.  Talk to others whom have gone through similar changes.  Research and read materials on the topic.  Learn what to expect and what resources if any are available to help you with this change. 
2.  Self Care:  You will hear me talk about self care a great deal if you come to see me.  Taking care of yourself is one of the most important things you can do in any situation.  Eat well, exercise, stay socially connected, keep a regular bed time, and take at least a few minutes every day for your self to practice mindfulness activities such as deep breathing or closing your eyes for just a minute and being aware of your environment - the sounds and sensations.  
3. Set healthy boundaries.  Learn to set limits.  Sometimes you will need to say no to others so that you can take care of yourself.  This is not selfish - it is necessary!  Limit the amount of other changes that you do have control over.  Give yourself permission to let some other things in your life sit still for a while.  
4.  Talk to someone.  Talk to a close friend or relative.  If this is not enough, call a therapist.  Talking through things will help you to sort them out and make sense of otherwise confusing situations. 

life transitions/change

Change Is Inevitable

Change is inevitable and we all experience various changes throughout our lives.  Life transitions, even when for the positive like a job promotion, marriage, or the birth of a new child, can also be stressful.  Other transitions are less joyful such as suffering a permanent injury or the loss of a loved one. Other major life transitions might include moving, retirement, children leaving the nest, or setting out on your own.  Some people seem to be able to cope well with change and bounce back from almost everything life throws at them while others are more deeply affected by change. If you find yourself experiencing difficulty coping with life transitions it may be beneficial to speak to a therapist.  Therapy can help you learn new ways of coping and experiencing change, and give you a greater sense of control over your future.

Is Change Really Good?
There are many changes that we choose throughout our lives because they are exciting or because we can see a definite benefit.  These might include going to university, starting a new business, getting married, having children, or moving out on our own.  Most of us desire to move onward.  However, some changes are imposed upon us leaving us with a sense of a lack of control.  The key to thriving, or even surviving, in those times of change that are beyond our control is to recognize the possibilities that change may bring, to become aware of what choices we do have, and to let go of the things that we cannot change. 
Change can encourage the development of skills or knowledge, and might also bring about greater awareness. For example, the family of a person diagnosed with schizophrenia might become more aware of severe mental health conditions and their effects. Or the parents of a child who comes out as gay might become interested in LGBTQ issues and equal rights and work to increase awareness. Change can also make clear what is important in one's life and allow for greater self-discovery and self-awareness.